i find myself on the other side of the great kindergarten switch up. i am alive. the tears were not nearly as long or ugly as i feared, but now the worry has set in.
did we do the right thing?
i have a really hard time with just making a decision and going with it. on my deathbed, i will probably wonder if my undoing was because of some random choice i made when i was 22. here's to hoping my deathbed is a long time away or i will overthink it even more.
anyway... did you know that being a parent involves a decision or three thousand? and some of those decisions are hard.
N's bday placed him in this kinder class by ten days. we wavered. we discussed. we were sure that yes, he should go. we were sure that no he was not ready. we asked. we stewed and ultimately we sent the kid to school- obviously.
but.
here i sit 1.5 weeks later and i am still just not sure he is supposed to be there. he's got the brains, but his maturity is still stuck in 4 year old world. he really doesn't pay attention very well. really.
really.
his teacher commented that he has "focusing issues", which sent my hackles up a little because, hello? he just started a brand new routine. he is barely five.
she also said he was a smarty and that he would probably be just fine, but i latched right on the the negative and it sits in my brain, right next to the grocery list. and right next to the thought that some teacher, some day is probably going to tell me he needs adhd meds- he is a little... passionate. hot tempered. hyper. but he IS five...
so what's a girl to do when all you can do is wait and pray and hope?
well- she can go all crazy trying to fix things and add reading and researching.
she can discover that maybe, just maybe his behavior matches up extraordinarily well with food sensitivities, even better than i previously thought. she can decide that we are going to be a Feingold Family for awhile and just see what happens.
but most importantly, she can give a silent high five to her husband when N reports that some of his classmates got sent to the Principal's office for misbehaving and he was good all week. she should also hope that karma doesn't turn around and bite her in her additive-free ass.
Showing posts with label food allergies. Show all posts
Showing posts with label food allergies. Show all posts
Friday, August 31, 2012
Saturday, January 28, 2012
in which i hold paper that costs 400 smacks
today i was reminded why nobody in our family is allowed to get sick... i mean for more than the obvious reasons like being terrifying and generally bad news.
that shit is expensive.
remember my blog post about my little man and his food allergy situation??
well, update.
the allergist does not think the food allergies are a potential asthma trigger PLUS it turns out that when i actually received (on my person) the blood test results, they didn't look nearly as bad as overly dramatic Nurse Ratchet led overly dramatic medical personnel momma to believe over the phone.
and. it is bad, yes, that the poor fella is allergic to our very lovable and ridiculously smelly and hairy pooch. but the rest of the list, the slew of foodstuffs found in all foodstuffs was so minimal that they might even be considered false positives... nice huh? overreaction much?
except for milk, which we already knew- that is still a minor, very minor player. so yes EXCITING and thankful rejoicing all around because he can still eat a cupcake at a birthday party but frowny face over having to tell your four year old he can't have basically anything anymore and then say "just kidding" one week later...
only a slight digression because it illustrates a point. the point being that we had a very strong inkling that the kid was allergic to the dog and milk. and that is exactly what the $413 lab bill told me too. i know that's not the point, i work in the health field- i get it. diagnostic tests rule things out, but i can't help but be a tad cranky that we have to pay that much money to find out what we already knew, just printed on four $100 sheets of paper.
the kicker is this- the test ACTUALLY cost $1700+ and $1300 was written off because of our insurance agreement. mind blowing- thousands of dollars to pull out a few vials of blood and test them up. but it is not the providers fault. they have to charge that much for a tiny little procedure because insurance forces them to write so much off as part of the agreement and they do still need to make money and pay their help. what a broken system.
B.
ro.
KEN.
{sigh} i will never forget all the $$ that my family got socked with when my mom kept growing brain tumors and everyone wondering why since she had insurance. i still break out in a cold sweat with every "eob" we ever receive from the smallest of check up appointments- just in anticipation.
{longer sigh} this is the system i must toil away in. and while i work in it and try to pay back the gazillion loans that landed me here, i sure as hell can't afford to be a regular patient in it. rant over.
and fist pump for four year olds that can eat the same stuff as everyone else.
and double fist pump for mommies that won't let them crappy stuff just because they can.
and google fist pumps that we haven't had a major health issue to really get all ranty (not "randy" like blogger wants me to change this word to) about.
i don't know if people are actually still fist pumping but maybe it will intimidate the insurance gods if we all do it together. stay healthy friends.
that shit is expensive.
remember my blog post about my little man and his food allergy situation??
well, update.
the allergist does not think the food allergies are a potential asthma trigger PLUS it turns out that when i actually received (on my person) the blood test results, they didn't look nearly as bad as overly dramatic Nurse Ratchet led overly dramatic medical personnel momma to believe over the phone.
and. it is bad, yes, that the poor fella is allergic to our very lovable and ridiculously smelly and hairy pooch. but the rest of the list, the slew of foodstuffs found in all foodstuffs was so minimal that they might even be considered false positives... nice huh? overreaction much?
except for milk, which we already knew- that is still a minor, very minor player. so yes EXCITING and thankful rejoicing all around because he can still eat a cupcake at a birthday party but frowny face over having to tell your four year old he can't have basically anything anymore and then say "just kidding" one week later...
only a slight digression because it illustrates a point. the point being that we had a very strong inkling that the kid was allergic to the dog and milk. and that is exactly what the $413 lab bill told me too. i know that's not the point, i work in the health field- i get it. diagnostic tests rule things out, but i can't help but be a tad cranky that we have to pay that much money to find out what we already knew, just printed on four $100 sheets of paper.
the kicker is this- the test ACTUALLY cost $1700+ and $1300 was written off because of our insurance agreement. mind blowing- thousands of dollars to pull out a few vials of blood and test them up. but it is not the providers fault. they have to charge that much for a tiny little procedure because insurance forces them to write so much off as part of the agreement and they do still need to make money and pay their help. what a broken system.
B.
ro.
KEN.
{sigh} i will never forget all the $$ that my family got socked with when my mom kept growing brain tumors and everyone wondering why since she had insurance. i still break out in a cold sweat with every "eob" we ever receive from the smallest of check up appointments- just in anticipation.
{longer sigh} this is the system i must toil away in. and while i work in it and try to pay back the gazillion loans that landed me here, i sure as hell can't afford to be a regular patient in it. rant over.
and fist pump for four year olds that can eat the same stuff as everyone else.
and double fist pump for mommies that won't let them crappy stuff just because they can.
and google fist pumps that we haven't had a major health issue to really get all ranty (not "randy" like blogger wants me to change this word to) about.
i don't know if people are actually still fist pumping but maybe it will intimidate the insurance gods if we all do it together. stay healthy friends.
Monday, January 16, 2012
if you're drowning, i'll toss you a pinterest
i have seen post after post about pinterest lately! on blogs and facebook and surely the twitter if i was a subscriber. i have mentioned in many times myself. that it is amazing! the devil's site! a time suck! chock full of inspiration!
i must add one more- lifesaver!
my son has asthma but it is only induced by illness and allergies. we are very lucky but we just got the "formal" diagnosis so it is still weighing heavily on my mind. it could be so very much worse. he is a healthy kid and we can handle a little wheezing, but it is essential that we know what exactly could trigger an attack. i wanted to know what he was allergic to, but i wasn't quite ready for the answer... milk (dairy), wheat (gluten), corn, soy, peanuts and so on. he is basically allergic to food. and, of course, the family dog. i am sure if they tested for it, little IgGs for me would have popped up in the blood test too.
damn.
just when you think you have done everything "right" nature swoops in to tell you that sometimes you are not in charge of the universe and your children's genes. i knew this of course, but could have done without the reminding.
double damn.
but it's cool because i've got this [food allergy thing]. i LOVE this boy. i love to cook and i love a challenge.
and i love pinterest who loves blogs about food allergies. this has been tackled by plenty before us. so i've got inspiration boards and i must say that so far, the recipes have not disappointed and the substitutions are pretty easy. so thank you pinterest for being a lifesaver! and thank you thank you that allergies and asthma are all that we're dealing with.
i must add one more- lifesaver!
my son has asthma but it is only induced by illness and allergies. we are very lucky but we just got the "formal" diagnosis so it is still weighing heavily on my mind. it could be so very much worse. he is a healthy kid and we can handle a little wheezing, but it is essential that we know what exactly could trigger an attack. i wanted to know what he was allergic to, but i wasn't quite ready for the answer... milk (dairy), wheat (gluten), corn, soy, peanuts and so on. he is basically allergic to food. and, of course, the family dog. i am sure if they tested for it, little IgGs for me would have popped up in the blood test too.
damn.
just when you think you have done everything "right" nature swoops in to tell you that sometimes you are not in charge of the universe and your children's genes. i knew this of course, but could have done without the reminding.
double damn.
but it's cool because i've got this [food allergy thing]. i LOVE this boy. i love to cook and i love a challenge.
and i love pinterest who loves blogs about food allergies. this has been tackled by plenty before us. so i've got inspiration boards and i must say that so far, the recipes have not disappointed and the substitutions are pretty easy. so thank you pinterest for being a lifesaver! and thank you thank you that allergies and asthma are all that we're dealing with.
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